What people are saying about Pan Vera as a facilitator and trainer.
“Thank you dear dear Pan for reaching out like this – I have never before experienced a request sooo much as an opportunity to meet a need to support someone I love!
Everyone,I have kinda accompanied Pan on much of this journey and witnessed his profound dedication to NVC and our network, including
- Pan’s openness to talking to anyone and everyone I introduced him to on Skype, and his warmth and delight that was such a great ad for NVC and CNVC
- his support to me and his mediation skill
- his powerful humility (sounds like a contradiction but in Pan’s case isn’t)
- the huge leap forward the website made after he took it on, and the big rise in participation
- how the website has contributed so much to all of our practice
- how the website has contributed to many of our incomes
- the sheer hard work he has done, both on tech stuff and emotionally as a part of the CNVC team …..
- …..and his profound good will – love ya Pan!
I know that any support we can give Pan will be paid forward in many ways …
… but I also celebrate his request in and of itself, and hope that (as he inspires me) he has helped inspire all of us to request help here when we need it
with love and care,
Ray xx„
Ray Taylor
Testimonial Date: 30th December 2017
“About 2 years ago I chose to participate in a teleconferencing workshop, "Compassionate Communication," over 8 weeks. Pan Vera was the trainer. Having attended a workshop that Emily Gould offered our community prior to that, I had learned that how we think and communicate with each other affects our relationships, our families, our communities, and it all begins with us.
In my life, I had had times where I thought I was not understood or heard, and felt frustrated at not being able to meet my emotional and daily needs. The weeks working with Pan, spent thinking and practicing, making a shift in how I communicate, has manifested into better relationships in my life, more meaningful, and helped me in places when others may have a very different agenda as well as style of communication than I. I often wonder, if we cannot have respectful compassionate communication with those close to us, how can we expect this in the world?
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Bernadette Rose
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th March 2015
“Role Plays helped to make sense of the material. I know this will help our group and others who learn about it. I am so pleased that such a large number of us could attend. Thank you for allowing a large group.
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S.B
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 3rd May 2009
“I observed that you employed multiple learning methods teaching NVC today. I was grateful because it helped meet my need of understanding/way of being.I also observed the we were sitting down most of the time, I felt apathetic at times because my need for movement was not met. Would you be willing to incorporate some movement into your activities.Thank you for your time.„
Anonymous
Course Title: Empathy in Action
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2009
“This seminar was extremely helpful to me because it helped reinforce the NVC base I already had, to a point that it was even more clear and came easier and faster in real-life use. I am really impressed with how Pan can apply NVC to every area in life. It makes it more tangible and real and encourages my further use of NVC. I was very comfortable. Pan’s demonstration and has an ease with NVC that really radiates to the rest of the group. 8/13/06
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-A.T.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2009
“This weekend has been and is enlightening, enriching and engaging.
I am grateful to all of you for fulfilling my needs of safety, trust, respect and learning. I feel integrated, whole, empowered and connected to myself and all that is.
I am grateful to Pan for fulfilling my needs of safety, guidance and the learning and practice of NVC material.
I am anxious/worried/scared about my needs being met in the future. This worry draws me away from the present- my feelings, observations, sensations, needs and wishes in the present.
What are your needs, jackal/ego self?
I am ready to listen when you are ready to show me and tell me. Really, the jackal and the giraffe are one. They are not fighting, at war with one another, opposing each other. They are balancing, integrating, transforming, circulating, dancing flowing.....they are the same stream.
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R.B
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“Pan knows the material, and gives examples and responded well to questions, through inquiry, more options, and kindness.
He addressed participants by name, shared some personal material, and role-played with participants. Helpful in getting in touch with my heart! Enjoyed the stages of intimacy!
Pan's ability to connect with my heart and to give me the freedom to feel and to discover my needs. Totally safe and secure- gave empathy-not judging. Shared self and had courage to be vulnerable.
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-E.T.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“The process he communicated through group interactions as well as lecture.
The gift Pan brought was his unique ability to communicate joy when someone showed an understanding.
There were moments of intense discomfort. In some ways I feel my trainer allowed me to remain uncomfortable. I don't know that my needs were really clear to me.
I need to work on identifying my own needs. 4/30/06
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-M.I.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“This training was very helpful to me in learning the basics of NVC and its applications.
Breaking down the applications- relationships, social change, etc, and flushing each out worked well. The meditations added depth, trust, and peace. I enjoyed the stories of applications of NVC and the examples of how one can "speak the language".
Even more would have been better. The specifics are very helpful. I was satisfied with the presentation in general and in specific I appreciated all the handouts. Pan’s flexibility and vulnerability and his willingness to bring forward the full meaning and value of NVC (world changing) with serious lightness!
I felt quite comfortable and connected- Pan contributed to that by encouraging participation by all actively and compassionately, and also not letting anyone 'stories' dominate the group deftly. 4/30/06
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-C.P.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“Extremely helpful. The "Stages of Relationship" in Jackal and Giraffe was new and useful.
Also, I felt Pan demonstrate respect, love, and connection with each person attending. Very satisfied.
Lots of interactive teaching and practice opportunities. Humor, self-disclosure, flexible, checking in with students about present needs. Very comfortable and connected.
Pan contributed many things, but most significant was his willingness to LIVE the NVC process as well as he talked about it.
Very fluid and powerful transitions between lesson plans and present moment teaching problems. 4/30/06
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-C.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“Very helpful.
Pan's presence, vulnerability, heart, and knowledge of the NVC process helped me to understand at my own deep heart level so that I have a good beginning understanding.
My needs were met for lots of practice. My need for connection was met- a group of strangers became community.
Pan's presence models connection.
I leave feeling blessed and hopeful for the work I am engaged in.
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-A.H.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“Very helpful. Pan's presence, vulnerability, heart, and knowledge of the NVC process helped me to understand at my own deep heart level so that I have a good beginning understanding.
My needs were met for lots of practice. My need for connection was met- a group of strangers became community.
Pan's presence models connection. I leave feeling blessed and hopeful for the work I am engaged in. 4/30/06
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-A.H.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2008
“Pan used NVC whenever he communicated so I was able to hear it used in regular conversation.
Pan responded to all concerns in NVC and I feel satisfied with that.
I feel comfortable because Pan lets us know we are heard by repeating what he heard.
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-J.M.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“Very helpful. Provides a great model that I will continue to practice in my life.
Pan is very empathetic and does good modeling of the techniques.
Very connected- I was a bit anxious and uncomfortable that my example had to do with someone in the room.
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-S.T.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“Good ordering of materials to be covered. I liked starting with universal needs. Good use of humor too.
I felt very connected- to myself, the instructor, and others in the group. . 6/24/06
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-K.W
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“The examples were helpful. Pan was very good at communicating clearly so I could understand it. I was very satisfied. Very good at communication skills. [Pan] did and excellent job of answering questions. 6/24/06
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-J
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“This training is extremely helpful.
Pan is great at expressing, modeling, and troubleshooting NVC steps.
Great job. Satisfied with vocabulary and role-playing. Very responsive. [I feel] very connected.
Pan opens himself to other's physical and verbal needs
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-L.R.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“The training was very helpful. The information was presented in a way that I could understand it.
I was satisfied with the safety contained in the group. Very comfortable.6/24/06
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-L.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“Very helpful in having an objective third party to give feedback and moderate the group.
Flexible approach tailored to individual needs within the group context.
Quite comfortable, but not enough to get truly vulnerable-which is, of course, a place where I really don't want to go anyway. 6/24/06
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-M.B.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 6th December 2007
“Pan was present, honest and a great listener. He helped me see how I am not honest and clear about my needs. Helped me understand how I can focus on connection first.
I felt heard and understood.
Coming from his heart he helped me create safety for myself and his information around alternatives to right/wrong thinking ways of judging also created safety.
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Chris G.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 7th October 2007
“I found this training (Language 4 Lovers) to be more helpful than I ever expected. I learned how to apply the principles of NVC and be able to recognize my feelings, identify my needs and make honest connected requests. I was able to practice giving and receiving empathy.
I feel that my time was totally well spent here today and I have new confidence in my ability to connect with my partner. I found Pan to be an exceptional coach who was able to discern what I was trying to express and help me state it in “giraffe talk”. I found him to be knowledgeable, supportive and kind.
He was able to mentor what connection is about. Found him to be open and accepting. Felt very comfortable and accepted and “seen for whom I am” by the instructor.
Thanks so much Pan for such a valuable day.
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C.W.
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 3rd April 2007
“-Very helpful-
The role plays were extremely helpful for real life. The empathy was life changing-I have always been a "Miss Fix it" and have known it wasn't effective.
Now I have a new skill to help my loved ones that are hurting and anyone who needs empathy.
I loved watching [him] practice empathy with people in the group.
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T.B.
Course Title: Empathy in Action
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“This training was extremely helpful in helping me understand at what level conflicts arise between people, that feeling are signs of our more basic needs, that the needs are life.
Also, I have learned tools for communicating with my wife, children, and everyone. I was very satisfied with the way Pan demonstrated the principles he was presenting. He seemed actually excited to engage in very difficult role-playing situations.
He remained authentic, however reminding us of how many years he has been learning NVC, and that practice makes learning easier. Honestly, I felt a little awkward with the process and vocabulary. Now after three days, I am much more comfortable.
I feel relieved to know I can connect with my teenage daughter since I can own up to my feelings and communicate my needs.
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K.B.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“I am very grateful and hopeful as I step into the world after this training.
The most valuable aspect of Pan's training for me was witnessing him model the use of NVC with our group. Pan did an excellent job responding to the questions and offering useful and meaningful insights into the use of NVC.
I felt both comfortable and connected throughout this training- Pan did a lovely job of creating and fostering an atmosphere of safety and growth.
Thank you so much for offering the gift of this work to the world.
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-K
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“Training was a helpful intro into the practice of NVC. I feel inspired to continue deepening my awareness of NVC and to cultivate my practice skills and integrate NVC into my life.
Very comfortable and connected- one of Pan's best assets for me was his gentle loving presence and ability to create a safe space for learning.
Training was a helpful intro into the practice of NV</strong>C. I feel inspired to continue deepening my awareness of NVC and to cultivate my practice skills and integrate NVC into my life.„
-A.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“Very helpful. Interesting way of presenting. [He showed] helpful ways to remember things.
Went home very tired at the end of the first day. [I woke] up very energized, I learned a lot.
Thank you for coming.
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-C.R
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“Very helpful in exploring the principles and giving good examples. He answered questions clearly, he gave examples. Very comfortable. He was very welcoming to each individual. 8/13/06
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-C.M.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“I took this class for my 16 year old son to be better able to communicate with him. I believe I now can! I liked the experience of Jackal and Giraffe. He also did [role-playing] back and forth with me, which helped me personally.
I loved watching him play President Bush.
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-R.D.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“He is extremely knowledgeable about NVC, models NVC very beautifully, gives clear examples of the NVC steps.
This training was helpful in using real life situations for illustrations in using NVC with the participants.
I was happy with the "workbook" materials, and I found the live presentation very excellent and helpful. I was very satisfied and I can keep to study more!
He was pleasant, enthusiastic, and tuned into everyone, interacted with all of us. I was comfortable, and I feel very connected with everyone present. The trainer contributed to this in nearly everything he said and did. He demonstrated warmth toward everyone in the group. 8/13/06
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-G.B.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 8th January 2007
“Pan comes from the heart. He answers questions for people that could/might have been good for them to answer themselves.
Pan was good in being objective. Not really comfortable with videos, thought forgot about it eventually.
Otherwise good.
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-J.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 1st June 2006
“Pan was very helpful and clear. He went through the steps using good examples.
The discussions with neighbors made me feel related and understand better what Pan was trying to convey.
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-R.M.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 1st June 2006
“Excellent presentation skills! Very comfortable, role-play excellent.
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-R.D.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 1st June 2006
“Very helpful- examples used were specific for participants’ experiences.
Very empathetic response to questions. [Pan] created a safe space. Very comfortable.
The initial remarks were made with such an open heart; [he] set the tone for the rest of the evening and allowed my heart to be open also.
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-W.M
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 1st June 2006
“It'll help me communicate with my father in the way that I can go beyond the past experiences.
I was very comfortable sharing what I have to say. I felt very safe as well.
Thank you!1/6/06
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-K.H.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 1st June 2006
“I observed that you were really wanting to help us with the issues and conflicts we are dealing with. Thank makes me feel like you really believe in this process of NVC, and that our understanding it is important to you. My needs for consideration and understanding were being met.
Could you please let us know when you are providing trainings by Pan?
Thanks so much for coming. I am challenged and hopeful about this material. Looking forward to sharing it.
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Anonymous
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th April 2006
“When Pan discussed the principle and purpose behind NVC, I felt energized because my need for connection was being meant.What I have learned about NVC so far resonates with me. This communication techniques so far resonates with me.This communication technique helps me connect with others and recognize our shared values. Thank You„
Anonymous
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th April 2006
“O: Opportunity to share our story. F: Grateful, inspired. N: Met My need for group to begin through process to NVC. Helped develop sense of community We realized the challenge that correct NVC can be. R: Need to be added to email list.
Thanks for offering this workshop and for coming out today to lead us through this process.
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Anonymous
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th April 2006
“When I gained a better understanding of NVC I felt encouraged because my need for harmony in current relationships has not be met.
Would you be willing to keep up the good work? Thanks you again, I really enjoyed it.
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Anonymous
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th April 2006
“Wonderful! Very clear and understanding of what the needs of those attending are.
I felt safe to explore without judgment.
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-T.Z.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th October 2005
“Very- tender, and gentle helping us connect to difficult places, feelings, and needs.
Pan was very gentle and caring with his presentation and responses. [He] helped us understand something very deep- maybe by following his intuition! Very comfortable.
He was open, sharing and brought a beautiful and thoughtful lunch and even the food prep and cleanup very much contributed to the sense of group participation.12/10/05
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-L.F.
Course Title: Foundations of Lifeserving Communication
Testimonial Date: 12th October 2005
“This training was helpful for me- it offered me insight into how I communicate and ways of inviting my communication to become clearer and more connected.
Pan contributed clarity, presence, and honesty and he was willing to be vulnerable- this allowed me to enter into the space of the above feelings/qualities.
I was satisfied with the mixture of "lecture" and experience/activities. I am especially satisfied with the handouts Pan/Pan gave me. He responded to my questions and concerns with grace and integrity- I am satisfied with that.
Pan's presence and enthusiasm fulfilled my needs of trust and play.
I felt comfy and connected at this training. Pan listened to me empathetically and respected my needs and requests. He held a great container for the training- bringing the training safety, joy, spirit, and sacredness. I felt connected with Pan/Pan and felt his willingness to connect with me.. 4/30/06
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-P.R.B
Course Title: Language 4 Lovers
Testimonial Date: 4th June 2005
*Pan Vera is registered with the Center for Nonviolent Communications as a candidate for certification and has been certified as an NVC trainer by PSNCC.